Pool Therapy

The other day I had a bit of pool/snooker therapy with a good male friend who I have known for about ten years. We always have ‘therapy session’ lunches, but this time we made it into a snooker/pool one (since your truly cannot play this game to save her life and he offered to show me how it’s done.) The main therapy topic this time was relationships- how Nairobians most of the time can’t seem to understand certain boundaries and how traditional chauvinistic traits have slowly, but surely started entrenching themselves in modern/current relationships. So as I poorly navigated the balls on the table with my q-stick (hope that's the proper spelling) and multi-tasked that with bitching and offering insights with my boy, we came to a conclusion of sorts-you have to know your partner well enough to navigate your relationship like the snooker balls, there always has to be a winner and a loser in some situations that might rock the relationship. Calculate your mover before potting- know how far the limits are before pushing your partner’s buttons, lose gracefully- nobody likes a sore loser, sometimes let the weaker player win- you do not always have to win the argument and last but not least follow the rules of the game- partners in a relationship should always respect each other. In short forget the traditional chauvinistic tendencies (days of women serving men on their knees, popping 50 kids because their man says so, men dragging women by the hair and slapping their teeth off are long gone and getting away with it !) and act as adults in a relationship, that's the best way to play the relationship game.